'My perspective on life has changed completely': Jessie J says suffering a miscarriage was the 'saddest and loneliest time' - but is now in the 'happiest place she has ever been'

  • If you have been affected by this story, you can seek advice at www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk or by calling 01924 200 799 

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Jessie J has candidly detailed how suffering a miscarriage last November was the 'saddest and loneliest time' of her life - before turning a corner in 2022.

The singer, 33, revealed she is now in the 'happiest place she has ever been' because the ordeal changed her perspective on life 'completely'.

Jessie spoke about her heartbreaking miscarriage during a recent performance at at Lafayette in central London, as she returned to stage this week for the first time.

Moving forward: Jessie J has candidly detailed how suffering a miscarriage last November was the 'saddest and loneliest time' of her life - before turning a corner in 2022 (pictured recently)

The Bang Bang hitmaker said on stage: 'So I was pregnant but not any more. I am probably in the happiest place I have ever been, believe it or not. My perspective on life has changed completely.

'The day it happened a man came up to me in the street. I was by myself and crying. He said, "I don't know you and I don't know what is happening with you right now but I know you should share it with other people".

'That is why I do what I do. So to anyone who has been through that, or near someone who has, I am so sorry. There is no other way to explain it than just the saddest, loneliest thing.'

Jessie now wants to use her own struggle to help other people who have suffered the same experience, as she claims that the topic is still taboo.

The media personality said her parents raised her to 'find the blessing in pain', as she admitted that she feels thankful for ther perspective she has on life.

Strong: The singer, 33, revealed she is now in the 'happiest place she has ever been' because the ordeal changed her perspective on life 'completely'

Jessie told the audience that one of her sisters flew out to Los Angeles to support her following the miscarriage, as she 'dropped everything' to be there.

It comes after Jessie assured fans she's having the 'best January ever' after reaching its midpoint on Saturday with a slew of Instagram snaps and videos.

She took to the photosharing platform to give her followers a glimpse of her movements after jetting home to the UK from sun-soaked LA, where she resides.

Jessie recently spoke out about her reasons for publicly announcing that she suffered a miscarriage just hours after her losing her baby.

'Best January I've EVER had': Jessie put her miscarriage heartache behind her as she documented her month in her native UK after jetting out of LA in a Saturday Instagram post

Wearing minimal make-up to showcase her natural beauty, the Domino songstress beamed for a sweet selfie, while wearing her chocolate locks in gorgeous curls.

After filming her plane's window view above a cloudy-skied England, she shared a hilarious video of herself kneeling on the floor during an attempt at rollerskating. 

Declaring herself a vampire with the corresponding emoji, the former The Voice judge snapped eight test tubes of her blood during a visit to the hospital.

During a visit to her parents' house in Essex, she snuggled up to their dog Indie, before receiving a telling off from her dad for allowing the pooch on the sofa.

Having a blast! She took to the photosharing platform to give her followers a glimpse of her movements after jetting home to the UK from sun-soaked LA, where she resides

Hilarious: After filming her plane's window view above a cloudy-skied England, she shared a hilarious video of her sister kneeling on the floor during an attempt at rollerskating

Driving past London's River Thames on a particularly sunny day, the Brit Award winner ensured she recorded the idyllic view from her car seat.

She squealed with excitement while enjoying a spectacular ride that Hyde Park's Winter Wonderland had to offer before mouthing along to Anderson .Paak's Am I Wrong in a following video.

Another shot saw Jessie pose up a storm alongside singer Daley in a comfy white sheepskin jacket before going on to sing If I Have Nothing by Whitney Houston.

In her caption, the Price Tag hitmaker wrote: 'So far, high key this might be the best January I’ve ever had…

Spooktacular: Declaring herself a vampire with the corresponding emoji, the former The Voice judge snapped eight test tubes of her blood during a visit to the hospital

Furry friend: During a visit to her parents' house in Essex, she snuggled up to their dog Indie, before receiving a telling off from her dad for allowing the pooch on the sofa

Wow! Driving past London's River Thames on a particularly sunny day, the Brit Award winner ensured she recorded the idyllic view from her car seat

'1. Natural “messy” hair 2. Home 3. Balance doesn’t run in the family 4. I’m a [vampire emoji] 5. “Dad can you tell Jess that indies not allowed on the sofa” [rolling eyes emoji]

'6. Hygge 7. [rollercoaster emoji] 8. [tongue emoji] 9. Elphaba and Glinda reunite 10. I have nothing if… [Union Flag emoji].' 

It comes after the songwriter broke down in tears in November as she played an intimate gig in LA, after being told the devastating news by doctors earlier.

Taking to Instagram recently, Jessie detailed the 'pain, trauma and loneliness' which she's been experiencing as she struggles to come to terms with her grief.

Catchy: She mouthed along to Anderson .Paak's Am I Wrong in a following video.

Pals: Another shot saw Jessie pose up a storm alongside singer Daley in a comfy white sheepskin jacket before going on to sing If I Have Nothing by Whitney Houston

Tragic: It comes after she spoke out about her reasons for publicly announcing that she suffered a miscarriage just hours after her losing her baby

Happy: In her caption, the Price Tag hitmaker wrote: 'So far, high key this might be the best January I’ve ever had…'

She admitted: 'The show must go on' mentality in her reacted before the human in her did, and immediately felt compelled to try and be inspirational when really she needed to cry.

Alongside a black and white throwback clip of herself singing Easy On Me during her intimate LA gig, Jessie penned a lengthy caption.

She began: 'I posted about losing my baby just hours after I was told. I reacted in work mode. It's safe to say I sometimes pour more energy into creating a unhealthy process of my own pain in front of a camera, than I do acknowledging it behind one in real time.

'The show must go on' mentality reacted before the human in me did. I must justify to the audience for my show tomorrow, and explain to the world why I might be a little off, was my first thought. I must turn this into a inspirational, I know I will be ok, strong moment, because that's who I am right?

Real talk: The singer admitted 'the show must go on' mentality in her reacted before the human in her did, and immediately felt compelled to try and be inspirational after her loss

'Truth is, I just needed to f**king cry and fall into someone's arms and sob. But at the time I was alone. I hadn't processed anything. Nor did I have any idea what I was about to go through not just emotionally but physically after this show.'

Jessie went on to explain how she understands the need to talk openly about miscarriage, and how her experience of baby lost has 'changed her forever.'

She wrote: 'I truly now understand why women so often talk about the want and need for miscarriage to be openly spoken about more.

'As I have learnt now that what people know of miscarriage to be (including myself before this past 2 weeks) unless you have personally experienced it. What people think it is, is in fact not a true reflection of what it really is at all. How can people support when they don't know?

Heartbreaking: Alongside a black and white throwback clip of herself singing Easy On Me during her intimate LA gig, Jessie penned a lengthy caption

'I have never experienced pain and trauma or felt loneliness like it. This has changed me forever. In the most, heartbreaking, but beautiful way. It's put life into perspective in a way nothing else ever has.'

Speaking directly to women who have endured miscarriage, Jessie shared her grief for them and insisted that being broken, weak and exhausted is allowed.

She wrote: 'I am so sorry if you have ever been through it alone or with a loving partner, or are going through it right now at any stage of pregnancy. Losing your baby is one of the worst feelings in the world.

'I ache for you. If I could I would bring you food, hold you through the physical pain, I know that's needed more than a "stay strong" text right now. I guess I'm here to say to anyone who may not have been told this, you are allowed to be broken.

'You are allowed to cry. Allowed to be weak. Allowed to be exhausted from the pain and the bleeding and the grief that barely has space to exist. You are allowed to do this however YOU need to.

'Sometimes life just calls us to be human. We know there will be sunshine, but we can't avoid the rain.' 

If you have been affected by this story, you can seek advice at www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk or by calling 01924 200 799 

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